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Monday, July 5, 2010


I used to experience fear so deep it was like an infectious disease that spread throughout every fiber of my being and paralyzed my ability to experience life in its fullness. Fear is an emotional and instinctive response to a perceived threat. Any decent psychologist can tell you that we naturally respond to fear by either our “fight” or “flight” responses; either we confront the fear or we avoid it. I was running for my life! The key word in the definition of fear is the “perceived” threat meaning that the threat may not even be real but the magnitude of the threat and how dangerous it really is or how harmful it really is originates in our thoughts.

So, the real question is never really what are you afraid of, rather, the question is what do you think you are afraid of? Marianne Williamson said “it is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” I’m a logical person (most of the time) and it is logical that if the problem with fear is in our thoughts, then it would follow that the solution is also in our thoughts. This is one of those things that you have to address at the root of the problem. Ultimately, the only way to let go of this fear, or perceived threat, is to conquer it boldly with Faith. How does one aquire such Faith? I’m going to do a lot of blogs about specific ways to build your faith, self-confidence, fearlessness, and I don’t want to oversimplify it here but I want you to understand how I came to understand the process.

The bible says that faith comes with understanding. I would venture to say that if you can fear something, you can also have extreme faith. I came to understand that they both work the exact same way. Worry is just a concentrated and perpetual thought and belief about something potentially negative that may be real or imagined. So, by having fear, you have faith that something negative will happen to you. You have to exercise your faith by focusing its attention on things that are positive and harmonious with the person that you were created to be. You have to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness and these are things we are going to work on together in this blog. It is hard to have faith in something we can not see, especially when we can not see the entirety of the picture but Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.


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