Fearlessness!

I used to experience fear so deep it was like an infectious disease that spread throughout every fiber of my being and paralyzed my ability to experience life in its fullness. Fear is an emotional and instinctive response to a perceived threat. Any decent psychologist can tell you that we naturally respond to fear by either our “fight” or “flight” responses; either we confront the fear or we avoid it. I was running for my life! The key word in the definition of fear is the “perceived” threat meaning that the threat may not even be real but the magnitude of the threat and how dangerous it really is or how harmful it really is originates in our thoughts.

So, the real question is never really what are you afraid of, rather, the question is what do you think you are afraid of? Marianne Williamson said “it is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” I’m a logical person (most of the time) and it is logical that if the problem with fear is in our thoughts, then it would follow that the solution is also in our thoughts. This is one of those things that you have to address at the root of the problem. Ultimately, the only way to let go of this fear, or perceived threat, is to conquer it boldly with Faith. How does one aquire such Faith? I’m going to do a lot of blogs about specific ways to build your faith, self-confidence, fearlessness, and I don’t want to oversimplify it here but I want you to understand how I came to understand the process.

The bible says that faith comes with understanding. I would venture to say that if you can fear something, you can also have extreme faith. I came to understand that they both work the exact same way. Worry is just a concentrated and perpetual thought and belief about something potentially negative that may be real or imagined. So, by having fear, you have faith that something negative will happen to you. You have to exercise your faith by focusing its attention on things that are positive and harmonious with the person that you were created to be. You have to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness and these are things we are going to work on together in this blog. It is hard to have faith in something we can not see, especially when we can not see the entirety of the picture but Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”


Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

Welcome to Purpose Driven Princess

Finally, my first video!

Every Woman Should Have...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE

• ...one old love she can imagine going back to...and one who reminds her of how far she has come...
  
  
• ...enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own...even if she never wants to and needs to...
  
  
• ...something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
  
  
• ...a youth she is content to leave behind...
  
  
• ...a past juicy enough that she is looking forward to retelling it in her old age...
  
  
• ...the realization that she is actually going to have an old age and some money set aside to fund it...
  
  
• ...a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
  
  
• ...one friend who always makes her laugh...
  ...and one who lets her cry...
  
  
• ...a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
  
  
• ...eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored...
  
  
• ...a resume that is not even the slightest bit padded...
  
  
• ...a felling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

• ...how to fall in love without losing herself...
  
  
• ...how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship...
  
  
• ...when to try harder...and when to walk away...
  
  
• ...how to have a good time at a party she'd never choose to attend...
  
  
• ...how to ask for what she wants in a way that makes it most likely she'll get it...
  
  
• ...that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents...
  
  
• ...that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it is over...
  
  
• ...what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
  
  
• ...how to live alone...even if she doesn't like it...
  
  
• ...who she can trust, who she can't and why she shouldn't take it personally...
  
  
• ...where to go..be it to her best friend's kitchen table..or a charming inn in the woods..when her soul needs soothing...
  
  
• ...what she can and can't accomplish in a day..month..and a year...

--- Pamela Redmond Satran

Things Every Young Woman Should Know

Purpose Driven Princess was inspired by the poem, "A Woman Should Have" by Pamela Redmond Satran. The personal mentoring program caters these principles to young women and provides a journey for how to be the global women we want to be.**Items are covered in Prentsilya's personal mentoring sessions.

Things Every young Woman Should Know to be independent-thinking, self-sufficient, confident, and high-achieving global citizens:


Personal Character/Self-Esteem (loving you is not optional, its vital to your success)

• Understand who you are, who you are not, and the power of being who you want to be** 
• Have a clear set of values, principles, and integrity** 
• Know how to be yourself no matter what ** 
• Know how to love yourself and be your own best friend** 
• Know not to limit yourself and be aware of the world around you** 
• Know how to articulate and express your feelings** 
• Know how to have fun and not take yourself too seriously** 
• Understanding and coming to terms with your past, creating and defining your future**

Physical Health & Beauty (Outer beauty should be a reflection of your inner beauty)

• Get check ups regularly 
• Have an exercise routine 
• Know how to Listen to your body** 
• Know how to cook a few good meals & eat balanced meals ** 
• Know how to carry yourself: walk tall, have a make-up or skin care regimen, appreciate individual beauty (lessons in classiness, sexiness, and trashiness know the difference)** 

Education, Career, Money (Set Clear goals and pursue them 100%)

• Know how to be focused, how to set goals, and how to obtain them (vision boards, mission statements,etc,)** 
• Raise the bar on yourself 
• Know the components of a well-rounded education 
• Have a good work ethic and study habits 
• Explore your skills, talents, passions, hobbies and capitalize on them** 
• Know how to think about money, make money, and manage money** 
• Know how to behave at an interview: resume-building, attire, communication** 

Mental Health/Spirituality ( Discover your purpose in life)

• Read!!! The right books can change your life** 
• Know how to be in tune with and listen to your spirit** 
• Know how to have faith and confidence in yourself** 
• Create your own rituals ** 

Relationships (Build lasting relationships that could change your life)

• Knowing your role or the role you want to play/adding value** 
• Respect yourself and others 
• How to Network: starting conversations with someone you do not know, ending conversations politely** 
• Know how to communicate effectively 
• Learn from others’ mistakes, Get mentors! 
• Take your time to cultivate relationships with people 
• Understand the basics to dating at a young age, sex, and what a man expects from you 
• Understand how you should be treated, what you want out of a man and what you would like to offer someone else** 
• How to be interdependent vs. dependent vs. independent** 
• Understand that people in your life should add value, seeing and appreciating others for who they are not who you want them to be** 
• Know the importance of unity and community (global,local) and family